My friend Felicia Cameron is a talented, inspiring writer who is a contributing author for the Hollywood Journal. I highly recommend subscribing to her articles and posts. Here is a re-post of a recent article:
It Ain’t Over Yet by Felicia Cameron
I happen to be nursing a broken heart at the moment, which everyone knows is about as much fun as a fingernail extraction. So the other night I did what any red-blooded American girl would do in my situation; I plopped down on the couch with an oversized box of Kleenex, a pint of Chunky Monkey and a DVD. The movie was The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel, chosen mainly because I think Maggie Smith is a great actress and would make a really cool grandma. But I wasn’t expecting it to change my universe or anything; I just needed something to take my mind off my owie for a couple of hours.
The film was chugging along, and I was about halfway through the ice cream, when I came to the part where Penelope Wilton is complaining to Dev Patel that her hotel room isn’t up to snuff. And that’s when he said it. Dev fired back at her with something so simple, yet so profound I haven’t been able to get it out of my head since.
Everything will be all right in the end. So, if it’s not all right, it’s not the end.
It seems trite, really, but think about it. All things have a beginning, a middle and an end. A day, a trip to the grocery store, the flowering cycle of an orchid, even a heartache. We spend our lives traveling through an overlapping succession of beginnings, middles and endings. They’re happening all around us, and much of the time we don’t even notice them . . . until we bump into something that hurts. That’s when our beautifully ordered plans come to a screeching halt, and all the balls we have in the air come pounding down on our heads . . . the end. When we’re in pain, it’s hard to imagine ever feeling anything else. It’s as if life has dumped us into something abysmal and abandoned us there.
But what would happen if we took the movie’s simple message to heart? Everything will be all right in the end, so if it’s not all right, it’s not the end. Instead of allowing our pain to suffocate us, we might say to ourselves, “Things are decidedly not all right, so this can’t be the end. Perhaps this miserable situation is just the rocky beginning of something great.”
Now, I’m not one to volunteer for a round of emotional mayhem, but I do know that after I plow my way through something awful, I invariably find something much better waiting on the other side of it. I think the whole process is God’s way of forcing us to grow. Because, honestly, if we weren’t dragged kicking and screaming out of our comfort zones from time to time, we’d all be whiny, irritating little people with no room in our lives for anyone but ourselves. So, from now on, I’m going to think of my broken heart as a renovation project. If I have to suffer through a bit of demo work to create a bigger space, it’s worth it.
Judging by the way I feel today, I’m about halfway through the healing process. I’ve made it past the beginning, and now I’m bumping around somewhere in the middle, finding my way back onto solid ground. I’m not quite there yet, but that’s okay. By the grace of God and with a little help from Ben & Jerry, everything will be all right in the end.
Trivia question: Who was Dev Patel quoting, when he said, “Everything will be all right in the end. So, if it’s not all right, it’s not the end?” (Extra credit for anyone who can answer without a Google assist!)
Click the link to read: http://hollywoodjournal.com/personal-journeys/it-aint-over-yet/20130401/